Why You’re “Spectatoring” During Sex — and How to Stop

Why You’re “Spectatoring” During Sex — and How to Stop

DEAR DR. JENN,

Often while having sex, I’m too dedicated to my performance and look to really relish it. At the best, my head simply wanders; at the worst, i am thinking in what my human body seems like in place of exactly what it feels as though. How do you stop? —Distracted Fan

DEAR DISTRACTED LOVER,

It’s not just you. What you’re experiencing is exactly what intercourse practitioners often call spectatoring, a phrase created by the popular ’60s intercourse scientists called Masters and Johnson. More →